Unreciprocated Like…

Here’s the most boring story (taken place over 3½ years) that you will ever read…

And you’re still reading??!! I’m flattered! *Blush*

The song I posted a while ago kind of ties in with this post…

Unreciprocated LikeTypical case of boy meets girl, girl meets boy.
Boy likes girl, girl likes boy.
They become great friends after the 1st year.
By the end of year 2, they are flirting & both are hoping that it becomes something so much more.
Beginning of the 3rd year- his ex comes into this story.
He wants to get back with her…
Girl is a little sad but overall ok- she didn’t love him or anything…
Just liked him a lot.
And then he decides that his ex is stupid and he is finally over her.
Girl doesn’t really trust this- ‘Is he really over her this time?’…
But girl and boy have a fabulously honest friendship.
Friendship is still awesome!
Flirting is still awesome!
Girl asks if there is a desire for more than friendship any more…
There isn’t.
Girl is sad.
Girl likes boy.

But girl strong and can make life what she wants.

Girl wants just friendship so she can find love elsewhere.
But the flirting doesn’t stop- it’s become unstoppable.

Kind of like, “The human mind once stretched by a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

Time to smell the coffeeGirl realises that she has just spent 3½ years waiting on a guy who clearly isn’t that interested.

No one knows what the bigger picture is- there must be a lesson for all these events, and she will learn it when she is ready for it.

Girl feels that if all her focus is on this one guy, how can she allow someone who is interested into her life?
She decides that if friendship without the crazy flirting isn’t possible then that friendship needs to go too.
Girl is sad. Not many people become honest friends… Not many people are such good friends for so long a time…

Then girl reads:

“You are the creator of your own reality, and so you are not in jeopardy. You do not need to control the behaviour of others in order for you to thrive. Your attention to things that you think they do that keeps you from your thriving is, in fact, what keeps you from your thriving… It is not what they do to you; it’s what you do to you in fear of what you think that they will do to you.” -Abraham.

This is too close to heart, and much focus has already been given- the habit has been formed… The friendship has got to go.

Dear friend… You will be remembered fondly…



(Pics Courtesy: Pic 1- nganoman.wordpress.com ; Pic 2- walblog.kingdomrep.com )


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. renxkyoko
    Oct 23, 2011 @ 17:17:55

    That is really sad for the girl. After the first year of “nothing”, she should have realized that she was just a good friend and hence, could have moved on. But if she had fun with the boy, I guess that was okay, too.

    Cheers from California.


    • Shil Rani
      Oct 23, 2011 @ 18:35:54

      I guess people hope for so much more, and then wait out on that hope…
      There must have been numerous signs that would tell her that beyond friendship, there would be nothing- like when the ex came back into the picture… alarm bells should have been going off!
      Also, when you don’t decide what you want- what your choice is, that itself is a decision. By not making a decision whether there was going to anything between them- the girl chose to allow things to go as they had been…

      Thank you!


  2. Didi
    Dec 09, 2011 @ 18:15:48

    Powerful stuff darling… I think that you are brave to stay with your friend and be strong like that, in the hope of still being able to have that friendship. I have been there myself and struggle to this day with the differentiation of friends and lovers and also if I unconsciously befriend people with the intention of having more. Heavy stuff.

    I love this post.
    You are beautiful.


    • Shil Rani
      Dec 14, 2011 @ 11:52:51

      Thank you!
      You wont believe I actually have a new perspective on this relationship and the lessons I’m meant to learn from it AND it was inspired by your blog! I can not wait for the chance to blog about it!
      I sometimes feel like I wear my heart on my sleeve and that’s why I struggle between knowing who wants more than friendship and who doesn’t. I think that its ridiculous that things cant just be a little more straight forward in that if the other person feels more than friendship, they come out with it… Guess that would also mean I’d have to do the same… I’m not so sure I can just be so vulnerable… hmmm…

      You are such a sweet heart! Thank you!


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