Niether can ‘speak’ but is always heard!?

Words that flowDon’t you just love it when you have a blank page before you, awaiting all your jumbled thoughts and crazy ideas! And then the flow of creativity that comes rushing over like the Niagara falls with every word that you type! Oh I just love it!

And I miss it!
Come back to mee soon…!

This is a post I’ve had in my head for quite a while, and it keeps popping up everywhere. I think it’s one of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt and its one I sure hope I can make other people aware of…

It revolves around the cliché, “Your actions speak louder than your words”

I found that this one statement holds so much truth! And it hit me hard when I couldn’t understand why people said one thing and I felt the total opposite of it.

They’d say I support you and respect what you are doing- and then they’d try to create circumstances that totally disrespect what I am doing… and I let them create that circumstance for quite a while. Then I grew some balls and said no.
I think that maybe they actually do think they support and respect because knowing that they really don’t would be too big a pill to swallow.

The above is just an example.  I have a variety of crazy ones!

People say they love care for and respect their parents. They then ask the most unbelievable things of their parents expecting their parents to be ok with it all. Children tend to know what type of life their parents have had, they know their age and what they are capable of. They also know that should they ask the world from their parents, their parents will leave no stone unturned in the effort to fulfil that wish.
age...And the children take advantage of this. Not because they are in a “tight” spot but because it’s easy and convenient for them.
Is this love, care and respect for the people who have done the best they know of, to raise you? The people who have given you the life you have had the opportunity to experience? You would never have seen a sun rise had it not been for them.


People say they love their children to bits and want the best future for them possible! They then continue to live in the crap situation and circumstance that their life choices have caused them to experience. They live continuously stressed and at a deeper level so hurt and disappointed in themselves because they didn’t pursue what they most wanted to do or they never bothered to figure out what it was that would really make them come alive and happy every day….
it all has an effect...The biggest message you give your children is that life is stressful. Doing what you want isn’t a priority. Things that make you come alive, make you happy, isn’t a priority. Your job and your boss is your priority. You can’t change circumstances. Giving up is ok. When the world says NO you say ok, and go on to live a mundane life. You go on to live a life that helps your boss realise his success. You live the mediocre life your parents lived and tried unsuccessful to get you out of… because that’s the way of the world.

Is that really what you want your children to believe? Because that will be what they believe. Your actions speak louder than words. They will believe that if the world says no, then there is no other way and I must accept it.

(You can’t tell your kids not to shout and scream, when you do. You are like their God, you can never do wrong- if you scream and shout, then there is no possible vice in screaming and shouting for them)

People say they are romantically interested. They either take forever to grow balls and commit to a relationship or they really not as interested as they would be if the “lady in red” had to appear in their lives.

Actions and words

People constantly say one thing and their actions another, whether actions are consciously made or subconsciously made, it speak volumes.

Watch the video…  Realise the volumes you speak with your actions- or inactions.





(Pics courtesy: Pic 1- ; Pic 2- ; Pic 3- ; Pic 4- ; Pic 5- )


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Heena Patel
    Feb 25, 2012 @ 00:36:01

    Great Blog Shilpa! It is easy to say words you don’t mean, however, it’s your vibrations that are felt way before your words are spoken! So you cannot escape it, even though you think you are by fibbing!
    It’s like when you see someone whom you’ve never seen before and just have a feeling of dislike or you feel a bit iffy in their presence, their vibration and intention (their action) is speaking loud and clear to your vibration. So many times you can’t articulate exactly why you feel the way you do about a person because your conscious has not caught up with your subconscious….
    One thing to bear in mind though…. you are only feeling the vibrations, interpreting their actions or non-actions and words, through your own filters – your beliefs, your values etc… it is true for you, might not be true for the next person.
    And yes, children mimic the adults around them, mainly their parents. And I totally agree with you… when you don’t follow your dreams, you are teaching your kids through your actions (or non actions) that it is too hard or not worth it etc to follow your dreams!!! Remember, your vibrations reach them long before your words do!
    Be careful what you are saying when you not saying what you want to say and rather saying what you do!


    • Shilpa
      Feb 27, 2012 @ 10:22:02

      True! You are perceiving life from your own vantage point… and we are seeing ourselves in everything because of those filters… Lessons to learn at every turn!

      Yip… so important to be aware of yourself and what you are intending. Becomes so much more important to be the very best of who you can be so that you can raise children that are not afraid to be their own best!



  2. Yatin
    Feb 26, 2012 @ 17:50:40

    Couldn’t have said it better. You choose very impresive images to go with the message. Unfortunate part is what’s registered in kids stays with them for rest of the life. It takes a great determination for an adult to wipe it to clean slate & start over again.


    • Shilpa
      Feb 27, 2012 @ 10:32:10

      Thanks! 🙂
      Hmm.. I wouldn’t say stays with them for the rest of their lives… stays with them until they start to do some personal development and begin to change their thoughts, feeling and beliefs around what they have programmed in them by the life they have had with their parents.. so its not hopeless, its just a longer process to get to be who you really want to be.
      I think it would be better to start with the clean slate that you have when your children are born… easier to mold their outlook on life and their self-image from then, rather than trying all over again.. which will probably require help from life coaches and the like…

      Thanks for the comments!


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